Growing up is by far the most painful and exciting things any of us will ever have to do. Think about it! Wouldn’t you agree?
I remember, during my teenage years, I use to get so excited just thinking about the future and what all beautiful and exciting things life was going to bring to me. I wanted nothing else more than to grow up soon. Being in my early 20’s was my ‘goal’, so to speak! I don’t really know why. But I always wanted to become 24 years old! HAHA.
Maybe, I believed that that was the perfect age when things are happening in your life. Your life is literally shaping. You are getting a new career, a new boyfriend/ partner. All of that seemed very enticing to me.
But at the same time, I remember being one over-analytical and ‘critical’ person about myself. I was always critical about myself. Worrying about things unnecessarily and getting anxious for things I had no control over. I am sure many of you would be able to identify with this.
Now I am much older than 24 and I would like to think that I have learned a thing or two about growing up and things that are actually important and worth worrying about. I have jotted down a list of 10 most important things I would like to tell my teenage self that would make my growing up years much more calm and peaceful!
Here are the 10 things I want to tell my teenage self
- Make yourself your #1 priority. Yes. Even when you are a teenager. In a bid to keep your ‘friends’ happy and to make new ‘friends’, you sometimes put yourself second, or third. Don’t do that. Maintain your stance and stand by it. Let them know that you are not going to let yourself suffer for any reason. If they are meant to be your friends, they will stick around. If not, it is for the better.
- Learn to say NO. You don’t have to do everything your peers want you to do. Or anyone wants you to do. If you have an opinion, don’t be afraid to say it out loud. The earlier you learn to say NO, the better the rest of your life is going to be. You don’t have to make everyone happy. It is OK to say NO.
- Stay away from ‘I should’. You have a whole life ahead of you. Don’t be bogged down by rules. Rules are good, but only if you make them. Do something only if you want to do it. Not because you ‘should’. Ask yourself, ‘Do I want to do this?’ and never ‘Should I do this?’. You will be much happier.
- Surround yourself with friends and family that truly love and support you. Trust your instincts. You know it in your heart who truly values you for who you are. People who are evidently critical of things you do, stay away from them. Chuck them out of your life. Do it sooner. These are your growing up years, you need all the positivity and encouragement from the world.
- Commit to developing a healthy lifestyle. I know you try to eat healthy and more or less, you food practices are good. But what’s really important in the years to come is building up a fitter body. Wake up early and go for a walk. Make it a constant. You will be a much happier person in the years ahead.
- Self Awareness. Pay heed to your body and mind. Listen to yourself. Seek for signs that tell you something is wrong. be aware of where you are, physically as well as mentally.
- Develop a daily gratitude practice. Each day before going to bed, sit on your bed, close your eyes and think of all the good things that happened in the day. Say a ‘thank you’ to the universe. It may seems silly sometimes, but trust me, it is going to make you a much more content person in the long run. Do the same each morning. Look yourself in the mirror first thing in the morning and smile. Say ‘Good morning’ to yourself!
- Take responsibility for your life. Going with the flow is good for the most part but pay attention to where your career is going to go. Be a little more serious about it. Find what you love and strive to get better at it.
- Stop worrying about what people may think. You will realise very soon that people will think what they want to think, no matter what you do. Do good, or bad, people who want to judge you will do so no matter what. Let that s*** go. It is not important. Do what feels right to you.
- Forgive. You like to think that you are forgiving people but you actually are not. Find a way to let it go. It is not worth it. For you own peace of mind and for you better state of mind, forgive them and move forward.
Life will take its own course but what choices you make, determines that path. I wish I knew these things in my growing up years.
Do any of you identify with these things? What would be that one thing that you would like to tell your teenage self?
Please share with us in the comments below.
Till next time,